Somewhere along the way we’ve adopted this notion that asking for help equates to weakness or even failure. It’s time we alter this perspective to one in which, encourages us to look inward and know there is a sense of strength in being aware of our limits and admitting to desiring and needing help. In asking for help, the burden can begin to lift and then be replaced with a sense of peace in knowing the load being carried is now lighter. There is power and strength that comes with taking charge of your healing journey and allowing others to aid in filling your empty cup, so then you can become strengthened to continue to flourish.
Let’s normalize asking for help, and accepting help. It’s ok to hire someone to come clean your home. It’s ok to hire someone to cook your meals. Whatever is needed to lighten your load in order to focus more on other aspects of your life more freely and wholeheartedly, do it!
We are not made to do life alone, and suffer in silence.
We see a great deal of social media posts encompassing phrases such as- #momboss #doingitall #icandoitall. It is incredibly important to set and accomplish goals, to become everything you desire to become of course; however, the path in which one takes to accomplish such goals doesn’t have to be taken alone. You do not, and I repeat- you.do.not have to have it all together all of the time, nor do you always have to have a million and one things to do, in order to feel accomplished.
steps to take-
~ become aware of when your tank is becoming empty (please do not push yourself to keep going on an empty tank)
~ give yourself permission to rest
~ ask for help
When you feel overwhelmed, make an effort to reach out for help- whether it be a text or phone call to someone you trust who will wholeheartedly listen. If someone’s presence is what you need, ask someone to sit with you.
Note to self- Asking for help provides a sense of relief knowing the heavy load you bear, isn’t yours alone to carry.
You got this momma, and always remember, you can do hard things!
Your postpartum doula,